30 Things Courtlin Has Learned in 30 Years
Happy birthday to me!
On Monday, May 3rd, I will officially turn 30-years-old. At first I was a little depressed about the death of my 20s, but now I'm looking forward to a decade of *hopefully* feeling as confident and positive as I do right now. I'm in a really good place mentally, I have a job I love, I'm surrounded by a small circle of loyal friends and family, I've got a cute little house and a cute little dog, I have my blue belt in Jiu Jitsu, and I've got a trip to Ireland planned for 2022!
In the past 30 years, I've learned a lot of important lessons, ESPECIALLY in the last five years or so. In honor of my 30th birthday, here are 30 lessons from my 30 years:
- Good friendships are hard to come by. Maintain them!
- Not everyone is going to like you. Get over it.
- Take criticism from people who care about you, not strangers on the internet.
- If something feels wrong, there's a good chance something is wrong. Trust your gut!
- Be happy for the people you love when something good happens to them, even if you're jealous it didn't happen to you.
- Don't ignore red flags. They're not going to magically change color.
- Stop comparing yourself to everyone all the time. Embrace your differences.
- Never beg someone to be with you. It's a waste of everyone's time.
- Always bring a pair of comfortable shoes.
- Honesty is usually the best policy, but there are nice ways to be honest.
- Actions speak a MILLION times louder than words.
- When a friend asks for help, you help them.
- Being single is NOT the worst thing in the world.
- It's ok to change your mind later when you're presented with new information.
- It's better not to say anything when you're super angry. Walk away and come back to the conversation later so you don't say something you regret.
- Being able to laugh at yourself is so important.
- You'll feel better after the workout, even if you really don't feel like doing it.
- Cherish your relationships with your parents/grandparents. You don't know how much time you have.
- People aren't judging you as harshly as you're judging yourself.
- Stop pursuing narcissists.
- GO TO THERAPY.
- If you love yourself first, you're less likely to settle for the wrong person.
- It's ok not to be good at everything. Embrace your talents.
- Admit when you're wrong, even if it really, really sucks.
- Getting your butt kicked a few times makes you a stronger person.
- It's ok to let toxic relationships go. Your peace is important.
- TALK IT OUT. Have the difficult conversation. Don't wait until you're at your breaking point.
- If you say you're going to show up, show up.
- If you need help, ask for help, no matter how embarrassed or ashamed you feel.
- Kindness goes a long, long way.
I'm looking forward to my "next 30 years," as Tim McGraw would say!